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Executive Relationship Coaching

Develop powerful relational skills and awareness at home or at work.

When therapy is not the right frame

There are times when people are not necessarily seeking therapy but are aware that something in the way they relate, respond, or connect is limiting them.

They may be functioning well on the surface, successful in their work and capable in many areas of life. And yet, in key relationships – personal or professional – certain patterns persist.

Conversations become difficult. Tension builds quickly. Feedback lands poorly. Distance forms where there was once ease.

Or internally, there is a sense of:

over-responsibility
reactivity under pressure
difficulty staying steady in complex interpersonal situations

Executive relationship coaching offers a space to think about these patterns with depth and precision.

Who this is for

This work is particularly suited to individuals and couples who:

are accustomed to operating at a high level professionally
value insight, reflection, and psychological depth
may not feel that traditional therapy is the right frame
want to understand—not just manage—their relational patterns

For individuals, this often includes:

navigating complex workplace relationships
leading or influencing others under pressure
managing interpersonal tension without becoming reactive or withdrawn
recognising how personal patterns show up in professional contexts

For couples, it may be:

a preference for a more flexible, insight-led format
a desire to work intensively on relational dynamics without the formality of therapy
a focus on how professional demands intersect with the relationship

A different kind of focus

This is not skills training.

It is not about learning scripts or communication techniques in isolation.

The focus is on understanding:

how you respond under relational pressure
the assumptions and interpretations you bring into interactions
the patterns you repeat—often outside of conscious awareness
how these patterns shape both personal and professional relationships

Using a blend of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), the work is both exploratory and practical.

The work brings attention to:

the relational patterns you participate in
the impact of those patterns on others
where you may feel justified—but still stuck

and

developing awareness of internal responses (thoughts, emotions, impulses)
increasing flexibility in how you respond, rather than reacting automatically
acting in ways that are aligned with your values, even in complex or high-pressure situations

Where this work is particularly valuable

Many high-functioning individuals notice that the same dynamics appear across different areas of life.

For example:

difficulty tolerating criticism—whether from a partner or a colleague
withdrawing when conversations become emotionally loaded
becoming overly controlling or directive under stress
struggling to remain open when feeling misunderstood

These patterns are not confined to one domain.

They move between:

intimate relationships
leadership roles
professional collaborations

Understanding them in one context often has a direct impact on the others.

Moving from reaction to choice

A central aim of this work is to create space between:

what you feel
and how you respond

Not by suppressing reactions, but by understanding them well enough that they no longer dictate your behaviour.

Over time, this allows for:

more measured and intentional responses
greater capacity to stay engaged in difficult conversations
a clearer sense of what matters—and how to act accordingly
relationships that feel less effortful, and more grounded

For couples

When couples engage in this format, the focus remains relational—but often with a slightly different tone.

There is space to:

examine patterns with clarity and directness
take responsibility for the part each person plays
understand how external pressures (particularly work) shape the relationship
move beyond surface-level problem solving

This can be particularly effective for couples who:

are reflective and psychologically minded
prefer a more conversational, insight-led process
want to work efficiently and with focus

If you are considering this way of working, you are welcome to get in touch to discuss whether coaching is the right approach for you.

Relationship Coach & Psychotherapist

FAQ's

Therapy and coaching for real change

What will it cost and what is the time commitment?

Tonia offers a range of programs from 8-12 sessions. Each 50 minute session is held 1:1 online, or 1:2 with couples. Coaching sessions are $200 each.

How many sessions does the coaching program involve?

There are a range of programs and Tonia can share and tailor the program after session 1 in which goals are shared and discussed.

Do you need to pay for the whole program up-front?

No, however online sessions are paid for at the time of booking.

Can the program be tailored to address my life challenges?

Yes, all the coaching programs are tailored based on goals, available time and client personal context.

What is the difference between relationship therapy and coaching?

Therapy focuses on understanding and healing the emotional patterns, wounds, and internal dynamics that shape how you experience yourself and your relationships.

Coaching is more future-oriented, helping you clarify goals and understand your values, while you build skills, and take practical steps toward the life or relationships you want. Tonia takes a customised approach to her coaching programs.

Not ready yet? Resources and Reading

“The Happiness Trap” by Russ Harris, doctor, therapist and expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

“How to Do the Work: Recognise your patterns, heal from your past and create your self” by Nicole LePera. (The Holistic Psychologist on Insta)

Ready to begin?

Schedule a consultation and take the first step toward the relationship you want.